Life Story Books Guidance

1. What is a Life Story Book?

All children with a plan for adoption must have a Life Story Book and all children in the care of the Local Authority should have a Life Story Book formulated with or for them as part of the ongoing Life Story Work. Making a Life Story Book is more than creating a photograph album with identifying sentences giving dates, places and names. It is an account of a child's life in words, pictures and documents, and provides an opportunity for the child to explore and understand their early history and life before their adoption through play, conversation and counselling.

A Life Story Book should:

• Keep as full a chronological record as possible of a child's life;
• Integrate the past into the future so that their childhood makes sense;
• Provide a basis on which a continuing Life Story can be added to;
• Be something the child can return to when they need to deal with old feelings and clarify and/or accept the past;
• Increase a child's sense of self and self-worth;
• Provide a structure for talking to children about painful issues.

2. Who Should Write the Life Story Book?

If the care plan is Adoption the family finding social worker and the adopters adoption social worker are responsible for collating the life story book working alongside the child's social worker and other appropriate people as mentioned above. Where the child is leaving care through other forms of permanence, or remaining in care, the process should be initiated, driven and co-ordinated by the child's social worker and carried out in coordination with the other people who know the child, including carer(s), parents and other relatives.

• Planning carefully how to undertake the work;
• Reading the information about the child carefully and thoroughly;
• Collating the information and presenting this using the Joy Rees model (please see: Joy Rees website: The Joy of Life Work). All Children and Young Persons Services and the Adoption Service also have a copy of Joy Rees' book where the model is fully outlined for guidance;
• Noting reasons for decisions;
• Noting gaps in the records and attempting to fill them.

3. What Materials are Needed?

Presentation is very important in terms of validating the importance of the Life Story Book and motivating the child to want to read it and show it to others. There is an expectation that Life Story Books are produced electronically, although some of the work with the child may be completed on paper and can be scanned into a digital format.

4. What Goes Into the Life Story Book?

• Family tree - back three generations if possible;
• Photos of maternity hospital (and, for younger children, a clock showing the time);
• Weight, length, head circumference at birth: Anecdotal information in regards to the events at the child's birth using words from birth parents if and where possible;
• The reason the child was named if known;
• Careful consideration needs to be given to the inclusion of a birth certificate within a Life Story Book. Although this may be appropriate for children who remain in the care of the Local Authority it may not be appropriate for a Life Story Book for a child who is being adopted;
• Any items from the hospital (e.g. identity tag);
• Dates of first smile, sounds, words, tooth, steps etc.
• Photos of parents;
• Photos and maps of places where the child lived;
• Photos of relatives;
• Photos of friends;
• A truthful narrative of the child's journey into care and adoption (where applicable) written in a child friendly way which provides information for the child to make sense of their current circumstances, taking account of their age. It needs to be written in such a way that allows for further detailed and potentially distressing information to be shared by parents and carers at a later stage and complete any gaps. It is therefore a tool which should facilitate ongoing dialogue;
• Parents' stories;
• Details of siblings;
• The child's views and memories;
• Photos of workers and their roles;
• Story of the court process;
• Photos of carers - including anecdotal memories using the carers own words about the child;
• Photos of workers and their roles;
• Story of the court process;
• Photos of carers;
• Story of family finding;
• Details of ceremonies (e.g. baptism);
• Anecdotes;
• Favourite foods, likes and dislikes.

Following the 'Joy Rees model', the life story format should begin with the present situation, e.g. the permanent family, then follow through the child's history of birth family, foster care, adoption and end, if age appropriate, with wishes for the future.

5. Foster Carers

Foster families should be encouraged to record the story of the child's stay with them as fully as possible. This should be undertaken regardless of the future plan for the child. The recording of their time with the carer should include:

• Descriptions of what the child was like when they arrived, what they liked and disliked;
• Details of development (e.g. learning to ride a bike);
• Their own special memories of the child;
• Birthdays, Christmases and other family celebrations/outings/holidays etc. - photos, favourite places etc;
• Details and photos of the foster family (including extended family), home, pets etc., who they got on with and who they didn't;
• If appropriate, times when they had arguments, sulks etc;
• Special rituals the child liked;
• Souvenirs of school - photos, certificates, reports, photos of and stories from teachers;
• Contact visits;
• Illnesses;
• Photos of birth family with foster family;
• Crafts/pictures completed in the foster home/school/playgroup;
• Anecdotes;
• Where appropriate, this memorabilia should be stored safely in a suitable box – a ’memory box’.

6. Using the Life Story Book

Children need truthful and honest explanations that they can understand - that means using language they know.

It is important that:

• Questions are answered as honestly as possible;
• Adults admit when they don't know the answer and offer to try and find out (rather than making something up);
• Children are helped to accept that not everything can be explained or understood;
• Information is given sensitively and honestly - protection and evasion leads to confusion and fear;
• Adults help children to realise which feelings are healthy and acceptable by discussing their own feelings frankly. If feelings are ignored, children get the message that to express them is wrong - bottling them up can lead to negative behaviour like aggression or withdrawal;
• Adults never pretend that abusive/bad relationships didn't exist.

7. Children who are Adopted

It is important to distinguish between life story work and the life story book. Where there is an adoption plan for a Looked After Child, life story work should be completed by the child’s social worker and be part of the preparation of the child for the adoptive placement.

The 'memory box’ should be collated by the foster carer and given to the child/adoptive parents at the time the child moves to the adoptive placement. The Life Story Book will be compiled by the adoption service and given to the child and prospective adopter in stages, especially when using this as a tool in helping to settle the child within the new family. At the latest the first stage is at the second statutory review of the child's placement with the prospective adopter. The completed Life Story Book should be handed to the adoptive parents, together with Later Life Letters, no later than 10 working days following the adoption ceremony, i.e. the ceremony to celebrate the making of the adoption order.

It is important to recognise the adoptive parent's role in formulating the Life Story Book, not only by giving photographs and information to be recorded in the book but also with the language used within the book and the way that information is presented. It is important that the adoptive parents are comfortable with the book and its contents. The collaborative work undertaken with adoptive parents will ensure that the Life Story Book becomes the tool it is intended to be and the adopters feel confident with its contents and how they can use this with their child.