SIBLING RELATIONSHIP CHECK LIST 1

Child A	DOB

Child B	DOB

Behaviour of Child A to Child B	frequency (Select one)

Defends or protects:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Recognise sib’s distress and offers comfort examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Accepts comfort from sib examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Teaches or helps examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Initiates play

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Responds to overtures to play examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Openly shows affection examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Misses sib when apart examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Resolves conflict through age-appropriate reasoning examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Annoys, irritates or teases examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Shows hostility or aggression examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

SIBLING RELATIONSHIP CHECK LIST 2

Child B	DOB

Child A	DOB

Behaviour of child B to child A	frequency (select one)

Defends or protects

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Recognise sib’s distress and offers comfort examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Accepts comfort from sib examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Teaches or helps examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Initiates play examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Responds to overtures to play examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Openly shows affection examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Misses sib when apart examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Resolves conflict through age-appropriate reasoning examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Annoys, irritates or teases examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Shows hostility or aggression examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Blames or attempts to get sib into trouble example of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

Behaviour sabotages efforts to meet other sib’s needs examples of this behaviour:

examples of this behaviour:

Often

Sometimes

Never

SIBLING CHECKLIST 3

Interactions

What evidence is there of :

Sharing

Boisterous play

Imaginative activities

Rituals (e.g. bed or bath time)

Jokes and fun

Secrets

Other

Are there marked differences between them in any of the following respects:

The roles they adopt

Activities and interests

Behaviour

Personality

Other

What evidence is there of reciprocity

Pride in each other

Praise and criticism

Mutual help

Do they model on each other

Think they look alike

Imitate each other

Emulate the qualities they like

Unite in face of problems

Other

Other observations on this relationship

What are these siblings’ won views of their relationship?

(views of other siblings can also be very illuminating)

On the basis of all this evidence, sum up the positives and negatives that this relationship holds for each sib.

Date check list completed

9

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SIBLING RELATIONSHIP CHECK LIST 1

InTech

2019-02-22

Colman, Maggie

Kirklees M.C.